“When a person is happy, his health, his successes, and his personality all change for the better, and my goal as a Bobfeet Crusher is to help you change your life as positively as possible.”

And because your mental health is as important as your physical health, Here, my dear, are 7 rules that will help you to be a happy person and change your life for the better. Invest your time and effort for yourself.

First rule: gradually, step by step

If you really want to start improving and changing your life, Start with small but meaningful steps that change you for the better and build on more plans over time.

any detail or custom, food system, Or a routine that you want to change, you should work on it gradually, not all at once.

For example, if you want to stick to a sports regimen, you should start with simple basic exercises on the first day and gradually raise the level. This applies to anything a person would like to change.

A sudden change in anything may cause you some kind of trauma or psychological side effects and will make the task seem more difficult, so we always advise you to climb the ladder one step at a time.

Second rule: No more being distracted by blank pages on social media.

One of the best ways to avoid falling into the trap of comparison / comparison spiral with others and to feel more self-confident is to close the window that connects us to other people’s lives and their details.

And that window is often social media.

Taking breaks from social media is an easy and effective way to become happier in your life. more in tune with yourself, More reconciliation with yourself, and the ability to live with greater awareness and avoid wasting your time, but you will have time to use it in useful things for your self-development.

Take breaks from social media to live real life. And think about what is important to you and concern you only, and to make plans that will lead you to success and happiness, without any comparison with others. And not just for creating a new idea, share it on social media either!

Third rule: Choose your surroundings carefully.

Very precious is the time you spend with people you enjoy being around, people who influence you positively and have interests similar to yours.

In contrast, People who have nothing to do with you or who have negative views, or complain a lot, and influence your decisions negatively, Spending time with them will only drain your energies and badly affect your psyche. Be very selective in choosing the people around you.

It is important to set limits to protect yourself and to preserve your energy from people who do not return to you the activity, optimism and vitality you need.

Activity and laziness are contagious. like any virus, So try to pick active, hardworking people to spend time with and get some encouragement and energy.

Fourth rule: Correct handling of depression and anxiety.

It is not at all strange to feel sad, frustrated or hopeless from time to time. Especially in traumatic situations and difficult life circumstances.

Most people suffer from some anxiety – feelings of fear and nervousness – at times. Anxiety, my dear, is part of how you respond to difficult situations. You may experience some anxiety before something big happens in your life. When you make important decisions or when you try something new, this is very normal, but what is not normal is when this anxiety turns into an obstacle and becomes out of your control.

If you start noticing new uncomfortable feelings, or changes in your energy and motivation, or any other unusual symptoms, It wouldn’t hurt to contact a mental health professional to give you further guidance.

through treatment, You can get the necessary support after discovering and diagnosing the symptoms you have noticed, Whether it is related to depression, anxiety or any other concerns.

A therapist can provide you with the guidance you need about treatment options for anxiety and depression. But you can also take steps to cope with these symptoms on your own:

• Allow yourself to feel what’s going on in your head without questioning. Unwanted and pent-up emotions can cause you a lot of distress. But knowing that depression and anxiety are caused by the causes and stimuli around us, but knowing that depression and anxiety are caused by the causes and stimuli around us, Not anything you did or didn’t do, It can enhance your self-compassion and your ability to face grief rather than self-criticism or punishment.
• Do something you can control. Regaining some control in such situations may help you feel that it is easier to deal with negative situations. You don’t have to take any major actions, But your accomplishment of small tasks, like making your bed, taking a shower, or unloading the dishwasher, It can help boost your sense of accomplishment. It can be a temporary distraction.
• Try to get a good night’s sleep, Not getting enough sleep can exacerbate symptoms of both anxiety and depression — and too much sleep can affect your well-being and mood. Experts recommend that adults get between 7 and 9 hours of sleep each night to maintain their health.
• Connect with your loved ones Positive relationships can push you towards improving your outlook on life and ensuring your emotional well-being.
• Try to eat balanced meals. If you rely on healthy foods, including fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains, It can help you get the nutrients you need – and it can help improve your mood, too.
• Take time to rest and relax instead of focusing on the things you think you should be doing. Respect your needs by making time for activities that calm you down and make you feel comfortable. This may be through: watching a movie or TV show, re-read your favorite book, cuddling with a pet, spending time in nature, cooking or baking, Listen to music or audio books

Fifth rule: Respond to your body

Respond to your body

Start by noticing how much rest you need.

Create a schedule to make sure you get what you need.

It may be easy to move on and carry on, Even when you’re tired and need a break. but in the end, You will get tired and notice the results of not having the rest time you need. Getting in the habit of scheduling downtime is a way to ensure you stay comfortable. When you feel physically tired, exhausted, and in need of a break, respond to your body.

Do whatever helps you relax. Avoid the noise and crowds of people around you. Respond to your body’s desires.

Sixth rule: Try to be positive.

Positive thinking is not magic and it will not make all your problems go away. What it will do is make your problems seem more manageable and fixable and help you deal with difficulties in a more positive and productive manner.

How do you think in a positive way?

• focus on the good things, Difficult situations and obstacles are part of life, but when you face one of them, focus on the good aspects, no matter how small or impactful they are.
• gratitude: Think of people, moments, or things that make you feel a little bit better or happy, and try to express your gratitude for their presence at least once a day. You can apply this by thanking a co-worker for his help, or a family member to wash the dishes for you, Or thank your pet for the unconditional love they give you.
• Be inclined to humor in all situations, especially difficult ones, And give yourself permission to laugh. It instantly lifts the mood and makes things feel less stressful. Even if you don’t feel it, pretending or forcing yourself to laugh can improve your mood and reduce stress.
• Practice speaking positively to yourself. Research shows that even a small change in the way you talk to yourself can affect your ability to regulate your feelings, thoughts, and behavior under stress. Here’s an example: Instead of thinking, “I really messed that up,” Try saying, “I will try again in a different way and I will succeed.”
• Start each day with a positive statement. Tell yourself it’s going to be a great day or some other positive affirmation. Listen to a fun, happy and positive song. Share some of this positive energy by doing something nice for someone.

Seventh rule: Stop procrastinating

Procrastination is associated with a variety of risks and negative effects. such as poor academic performance, bad financial situation, increased interpersonal problems, Poor mental and physical health. To avoid the negative effects of procrastination and procrastination, You must use appropriate techniques to combat the habit, like breaking down big tasks into chunks you can control and get done, The task will seem easier.

Here are some tips:

• Break tasks into manageable steps (such as subtasks that you can complete easily).
• Give yourself permission to make mistakes (accept that your work will be imperfect).
• Commit to a small first step (for example, work for only 5 minutes).
• Make tasks more interesting and entertaining (by listening to music while you work).
• Plan how to deal with obstacles (by specifying that if X occurs, you will do Y).
• Start with your best or worst task (easiest or hardest).
• Set deadlines (eg, Specify that you will complete a specific task by tomorrow evening).

Written by: Mai Majar

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